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What is Locus of Control (and Why It Matters)
If you’re living with ADHD, you probably know the feeling of trying to juggle all the things, work, home, relationships, emotions, and still wondering why you’re exhausted. A big part of that overwhelm comes from trying to manage things that aren’t actually in your control.
Or maybe you're ready to make some changes but there's a voice inside that's listing all of your past "flops" and convincing you that it's just not worth the effort? When you believe you don't have control over the things you can impact, that "stuck" feeling is common!
That’s why understanding locus of control can be so important- it can help us focus our energy more strategically and get out of these not so helpful patterns.
Locus of control refers to your perception of what things influence your outcomes.
Internal Vs. External Locus of Control
- With an internal locus of control, you believe your actions make the difference.
- With an external locus of control, you believe outside forces (like luck, other people, or circumstances) determine your outcomes.
The truth? Life is typically a mix of both.
When you can tell the difference, you start using your energy wisely. You stop blaming yourself (or excessively worry) for the things you can’t control and start focusing on what is in your power: your planning, your boundaries, your environment, your choices.
For example: You may not be able to control the fact that your emotions show up in a big way (we’ve all had that unexpected moment of crying at a commercial), but you can control how you respond or what strategies you use to "surf" big emotions.
You can’t control other people’s opinions about ADHD, but you can decide whether you want to engage with them or just walk away.
Learning to focus on what’s in your control and release what’s not helps you protect your time, your energy, and your self-worth.
Put It Into Practice!
So next time you feel overwhelmed or stuck, ask yourself:
“What’s really mine to manage and what can I let go of?”
“What’s really mine to manage and what can I let go of?”
Getting good at answering this question will help you spend your energy on the things that are most likely to give you the outcomes you want!
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